HOW TO GET OVER YOUR EX / BAD BREAKUP

 

Everyone has at one point in their lives, had to break off a relationship, how we all handle it is different. Others move on in days, others in months, others in years, others take decades to heal. 

People have been through a lot of bad breakups, most people have even gone to the extent of committing suicide, because of the betrayal and disappointment they felt from someone they trusted and loved.

Theres no exception to the rule...but a few pointers can help soften the blow.

The first thing to note in getting over an Ex is to Delete their number, chats, pictures, videos etc..anything that reminds you of them. 

Don't entertain their visits and texts, it's a bit awkward hanging out with an ex, because the conversation will always go back to what happened in the past, distance yourself from them. (If you are not ready to reconcile, what's the essence?)

Write down your feelings and cry..it's okay to breakdown and cry, don't fake being happy. Go through the pain and release the pain.

Discard anything that reminds you of them / brings back memories, and can cause you to fall back, like clothes, gifts etc.

Get busy, get a hobby, don't be idle. Learn new things online and distract yourself.

Don't rush into a new relationship, try and heal first, if not you will carry your anger, expectations and even compare your new partner to your ex, which is not fair to them.

Accept your faults, figure out what you did and don't repeat it, forgive them, forgive yourself and let them go. Because whether or not you forgive them, they will be living their lives.

Listen to gospel music, not love songs. It helps you to focus on God and not your ex.

Take time to heal, and keep believing in love, true love will come, true love will stay.

Written by DAPHNE ADDISON